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Babies react with crying when they encounter situations they do not like or find negative, while children of 2-3 years react to shouting or hitting. DBE Institute of Behavioral Sciences Clinical Psychologist Merve Soysal, "At this age, children are not directed towards anger outbursts may have serious problems in the future," he tells families about anger crisis.
No matter what age we are, we experience many emotions during the day as life continues. Some of them are considered “positive sevgi as love, enjoyment and entertainment, while others are seen as“ negative ”or negative, such as hate, jealousy, anger and fear. In fact, all our emotions are born as a natural consequence of a number of events and do not make us right-wrong, good-bad. The important point here is how we reflect them rather than what we feel. This is not the case only in the world of adults. For example, babies react with crying when they encounter situations they do not like or find negative, while children 2-3 years old react to shouting or hitting. Children who are not directed towards outbursts at these ages may have serious problems in the future. For this reason, the reasons for the aggressive reactions of the child from the earliest periods should be understood and some points should be paid attention while raising them.
Parent Behavior Important
The first point to consider is how the child's home environment is in anger bursts. It is inevitable for the parents to learn this path in an environment where the problems are handled aggressively. In such a case, the parents should concentrate on their individual attitudes. In addition, in recent years in life; death of someone close to him, having a brother, moving, etc. can increase the child's aggressive behavior. After focusing on these points, we can see that some children can react to events more quickly than others without the main reasons mentioned above. Even though aggressive and aggressive reactions are accepted from time to time in the family, they start to create problems with school life. First of all, the child, who is labeled in the classroom, has a bad reputation in school. The child, who is excluded by his friends and whose collar is shaken by his friends, develops different behaviors to deal with this situation after a while; it usually loses interest in the school and cools it down, or becomes the school bully. Since the change will be more difficult after this point, it is necessary to take some precautions from the beginning.
Need to Set Rules
Parents should pay attention to some points when raising their children who have problems in anger control. First, it is necessary to apply effective disciplinary methods when living with children with anger control weakness. The rules in the life of these children should be clearly and consistently followed by the parents in a common way. He must feel that he will have limits to his life while making him feel that he is an individual. When trying to maintain discipline within the home, it is necessary to establish effective ways of communication rather than remind or shout the same rules over and over again. Particularly in this type of children, any responsibility or a rule to be followed should be explained as “broken plaque,, not by begging or angry voice, but by eye contact with calm, short sentences. Although it is based on these methods, it is still necessary to apply different ways to some children, as you will read below.
1. Talk thoroughly about emotions with your child who has difficulty controlling his anger. Share with the surrounding examples what emotions people feel and how they react to what events. During this conversation, discuss in detail what anger behaviors the feeling of “anger sebep causes and how this leads to negative situations in people's lives.
2. Children with poor communication skills become aggressive when they have difficulty expressing themselves. Therefore, create different environments and situations for him to express himself. Teach effective ways of speaking from an early age when talking about events. For example, “I feel _____, because you did ____________ and now I want you to do ______ '.
3. Children who have poor communication skills as well as the ability to solve the problems they encounter, panic when they encounter any problems and exhibit angry behavior. For this; you can explain the small problems that are going on in your age period and find solutions together. You can also create imaginary situations as if it were a game (for example: two people want to eat apples but what can they do if they have an apple?) And then work together to create solutions.
4. You should take care not to reward angry or aggressive behavior. For example, a child crying and hitting the environment because he didn't get what he wants in the shopping center will stop him from doing what he wants to learn.
5. You must teach him to think analytically to deal with problems. Instead of hitting, listening, and making excuses about the problem, it should first identify the existing problem, focus on the problem, not the other one, and learn to take responsibility for the behaviors to be done.
6. He will understand them better if he manages to read what he feels through nonverbal actions. While doing this kind of work at home, it will be effective to turn down the volume of the television and play “what it feels” or inden what it feels or feels inden from the facial expressions in the big pictures in the newspapers.
7. It is necessary to support participation in games or sports that can be played in groups. Winning or losing will cost the whole group, so their behavior will be to solve problems.