Pregnancy is a turning point in every woman's life. More than physical changes, psychological factors affect life more. On the one hand happiness, on the other hand is experiencing concern. Psychologist Özden Dandul sheds light on the psychological problems of mothers.
: How does learning a pregnancy affect a woman's life psychologically?
Özden Dandul: When she learns that she is pregnant, a new period begins in her life. How this period will be spent and its psychological impact on women depends primarily on the emotional readiness of the expectant mother. In addition, factors such as the mother's relationship with her spouse, physical health, her own childhood experiences and relationships with her family determine the psychological impact of pregnancy on the mother. Pregnancy is a period in which the woman questions her relationship with her husband and the role she plays in life. The mother's relationship with the baby she raised in the beginning to listen to her and talk to overcome the anxiety felt during pregnancy and intense postpartum; it helps the expectant mother prepare herself emotionally for her new role.
: How are father candidates affected?
Özden Dandul: The very special and close relationship between the mother and her baby begins when the baby is in the womb. Many prospective fathers complain that they feel out of this relationship. During pregnancy, when the woman focuses more on herself and her baby, there may be divergences between some spouses. Such alienations are less experienced in the partnerships where the spouses who are in harmony feel close to each other, and the new individual who will join the family causes the spouses to get closer to each other.
: What are the psychological effects of some physical problems (nausea and vomiting) during the first trimester of pregnancy?
Özden Dandul: The physical problems experienced by the expectant mother during the early stages of pregnancy prevent the woman from getting acquainted with this very important and new role in a comfortable and pleasant way and preparing herself emotionally for her baby from the first days. Already, pregnancy itself is a turning point in the life of a woman, a new experience, while the physical problems experienced in the early stages of pregnancy, and may worry the mother.
: Is it normal for prospective mothers to fear un what kind of mother will I be? Ay
Özden Dandul: Today, especially the pressure on working women is increasing. Contrary to popular belief, raising children in technology, speed and competition has become more difficult than in the past. It is of course a great responsibility to bring an individual to the world by deciding for yourself, even when it is difficult for adults to feel safe and satisfied in a rapidly changing society. Therefore, it is natural that the mother-to-be is concerned with questions such as “what kind of mother will I become” or miy can I be a good enough mother ”. Moreover, this anxiety motivates the woman to question herself and to think about her baby as long as it does not turn into great fears that will affect her life.
: How should he cope with this fear?
Özden Dandul: This fear should not reach the extent to affect the mother's self-confidence and should not allow such fears to be destructive to the woman and her baby after becoming pregnant. Factors such as self-esteem and relationships with the spouse, which I mentioned here, are very important because they are the elements that nurture the woman emotionally and make her feel confident. Therefore, the expectant mother should share her fears and concerns with her husband and support each other by taking responsibility for being a parent. Fear, anxiety, anger, emotions, which we consider negative, are extremely natural. The important thing is to vocalize and confront these feelings. But so that these fears are overcome and our feelings are not us; it is possible for us to control them.
: Career prospective mothers experience work-home-baby syndrome. What are your suggestions to them?
Özden Dandul: The most important concerns of prospective mothers are that they should give up their jobs, meaning their lives and devote themselves completely to their babies. However, such a self-renunciation has negative effects on the mother's mental health and therefore on the baby's mental health. The fact that the mother can raise a peaceful baby and enjoy it while doing so is related to how the mother feels herself in the first place. After a while, if the mother wants to go back to work, creating her own living spaces and producing something, she nurtures the woman emotionally. Rather than experiencing motherhood as a difficult, boring or even depressing experience, motherhood perceives the woman as a pleasant experience that enriches her family life. Prospective mothers should have such a perspective from the first day they decide to become a mother and believe that it is important to spend quality time with their babies, not all times. Also, the baby does not belong to the mother alone. The sharing of responsibility with the father and the support of the father prevent motherhood from being a disease.
: What are the changes seen in mothers with birth?
Özden Dandul: Birth is a huge change and trauma for the baby and the mother. With birth, the social roles of women change overnight and she finds herself in an intense and tiring effort. On the one hand, the woman tries to absorb the big change in her life and on the other hand, she is given 9 months belly; then he tries to be able to survive the baby who is totally dependent on him. In addition, with the birth of the baby, the relationship between the spouses gained a new dimension and became even more difficult. Many women may even become depressed in this period after birth, where many changes and emotions are experienced together.
: What points should fathers pay attention to themselves and their spouses during this period?
Özden Dandul: Prepare partners together before the birth; it is very important to share emotions as well as physical occupations. Although the birth of the baby is a big change in the life of the father, the biggest change is for the woman. It is very important for the father to be in contact with and support his wife so that he does not feel out of the mother-baby relationship and the mother can adapt to this dramatic change.